What Not to do in a Jacksonville Divorce

September 27, 2023by Adam Sacks

Are you going through a divorce? Here are some recommendations on what to avoid.

1. Do not belittle your spouse to others, especially the children.

2. Do not disclose confidential information to others

3. Don’t Hide Facts.

4. Don’t increase your debt.

5. Don’t post about your divorce on social media.

1. Do Not Belittle Your Spouse to Others During Your Divorce, Especially the Children

One mistake to avoid during a divorce is belittling your spouse, whether it’s venting frustrations to friends, family members, or, worst of all, directly to your children. Speaking negatively about your spouse can have devastating consequences, not only for your relationship with your ex-spouse but also for the overall well-being of your children.

Children are incredibly perceptive, and they naturally love and look up to both parents. When they hear negative things about one parent from the other, it can cause confusion, guilt, and even emotional trauma. This can lead to strained relationships, decreased self-esteem, and long-lasting psychological effects on children.

Family law issues such as child custody, time-sharing schedules, and parenting plans require the court’s consideration of what is in the best interests of the children. If you are seen as actively trying to alienate your children from the other parent, it can have significant negative consequences on the outcome of these decisions.

Even though you may be ending your marriage, you will likely need to co-parent your children together for years to come. Thus, maintaining a civil relationship and fostering open communication can benefit everyone involved.


2. Do Not Disclose Confidential Information With Others

Divorce proceedings involve personal and sensitive information about your marriage, finances, and even potential issues of domestic violence. Sharing confidential information with others can have serious repercussions and negatively impact your case.

Disclosing confidential information can harm your legal position. Your spouse’s attorney can potentially use any information you share against you during negotiations or in court. Remember that anything you say can be used as evidence, so it’s best to only share information with your attorney and trusted legal team.

When confiding in friends or family members, it may be difficult for them to remain impartial and keep the details to themselves. This can not only affect their perception of your spouse but also damage their relationship with your ex-partner.

3. Don't Hide Facts in Divorce Court

Unfavorable Court Rulings: Concealing important facts from the court can significantly impact the outcome of your divorce proceedings. The court expects both parties to provide accurate and complete information regarding their assets, debts, income, and other relevant details.

Loss of Credibility: Hiding facts during a divorce can damage your credibility not only with the court but also with your legal counsel. When credibility is compromised, it becomes harder for the court to trust your statements and arguments. This lack of trust can have a negative impact on various aspects of your divorce, including child custody, spousal support, and property division.

Legal Consequences: Concealing information during a divorce can be viewed as perjury or contempt of court, both of which are serious offenses. If the court discovers that you intentionally lied, withheld information, or manipulated documents, you may face legal repercussions such as fines, sanctions, or even imprisonment.

Damage to Relationships: Attempting to hide facts can escalate tensions and damage the already fragile relationship between you and your spouse. It is important to prioritize open communication and honesty throughout the divorce process to not only minimize conflict but also allow for a more amicable resolution.

Don't Hide Facts

4. Don't Increase Your Debt

Dividing debt: During the divorce process, both assets and liabilities are subject to equitable distribution. Increasing your debt load means there will be even more to divide between you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse. This can lead to lengthy negotiations and disputes over who is responsible for each debt, ultimately prolonging the divorce proceedings.

Financial strain: By taking on more debt, you are potentially putting yourself in a precarious financial situation. Divorce often involves a restructuring of finances, and adding new debt can make it more difficult to maintain financial stability.

Alimony and child support: When determining spousal support and child support payments, the court takes into account the financial resources and needs of both parties. Increasing your debt burden may impact the court’s decision, potentially leading to more significant financial obligations. Carefully manage your debt during the divorce process to ensure a fair and reasonable resolution.

Long-term financial implications: Taking on additional debt during a divorce can have long-term consequences for your financial health. It may prolong your ability to rebuild your credit, save for the future, and achieve financial security.

5. Don't Post About the Divorce on Social Media

Sacks & Sacks is here to guide you through the Jacksonville divorce process and ensure you don’t make common errors that can prolong your case or negatively impact your future. With our expertise in family law, we have seen it all and can help you avoid the pitfalls.

Privacy concerns: Your divorce is a personal matter, and broadcasting the details on social media can compromise your privacy. Remember that your posts can be seen by a wide audience, including friends, family, and even your ex-spouse’s legal team. By keeping your divorce off social media, you can protect your personal information and maintain a sense of control over the narrative.

Legal implications: Social media posts can be used as evidence in court proceedings. Anything you post online can potentially be brought up by the opposing party to discredit your claims or portray you in a negative light. Even innocent posts can be interpreted in different ways, so it’s best to err on the side of caution and refrain from discussing your divorce on social media altogether.

Emotional impact: Divorce is an emotionally charged process, and posting about it on social media can intensify those emotions. Sharing your frustrations, anger, or sadness on a public platform may invite unwanted opinions and judgments from others.

Focus on your well-being during this difficult time and seek support from trusted friends and family members instead of seeking validation online.

Impact on negotiations: Posting about your divorce on social media can impact negotiations and even the outcome of your case. For instance, if you claim financial hardship but post pictures of expensive vacations, it may raise questions about your credibility. Posting negative comments about your ex-spouse can escalate conflicts and make it more challenging to reach an amicable agreement.

Impact on children: If you have children, it’s vital to prioritize their well-being throughout the divorce process. Posting about your divorce on social media can expose them to unnecessary information or create confusion and anxiety. Children should be shielded from the details of the divorce, and discussing it online can have unintended consequences on their emotional state.

Florida has among the highest divorce rates in the U.S., coming in at 13%! Florida has the 6th highest divorce rate. [1]

Contact Sacks & Sacks for expert family law representation and guidance.

Don't Post About the Divorce on Social Media


[1] These Counties Have The Highest Divorce Rates In Florida. (n.d.). WiLD 94.1. https://wild941.com/listicle/these-counties-have-the-highest-divorce-rate-in-florida/

by Adam Sacks

Adam Sacks is lead Family Law Attorney at Law Offices of Sacks & Sacks, P.A. in Jacksonville, Florida. He has a BA in Psychology from 1994, and received his Juris Doctor Degree in 1999 from the Western Michigan University Cooley Law School.

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